“Bully” – Advanced Screening & Town Hall Discussion

Posted on: March 20th, 2012 by
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Pin It To Stop It!

I was fortunate enough to see an advanced screening of Bully, which is set for release on March 30th, 2012 in Los Angeles.

If enough people go to see it, it may be released nationwide.

Director Hirsch’s goal is to get one million kids to see it.

I say shoot for 2m, Lee!

 

 

 

Bully - Town Hall Meeting

Director Lee Hirsch & Kathy Gifford talking about Bully

 

Review & Thought

Director Lee Hirsch nailed it. The movie is poignant, pertinent and terrifying. As an anti-bully educator, I realized that I am not doing enough. The tools we use feel frail in comparison to the onslaught of true peer-aggression.  Make no mistake, this is not simple taunting – it is physical and verbal aggression.

These aggressors shown in the movie are brutal.

Is this just a Hollywood spin on bullying? Not from what more than 15,000 kids have told me.

The sad part is that most ‘bullies’ are actually good kids – they just get caught up in group-think. When one kid sees it happening and the target doesn’t fight back, the other kids suddenly realize its OK to pick on Johnny or Sally. We do this as adults too. That’s how riots happen.

Parents Kirk and Laura Smalley, who lost their child to bullycide are also interviewed. In a heartbreaking moment, Mr. Smalley notes, “If I were a politician – something would be done – but I’m just a nobody.” Yet, instead of sinking into sadness – the parents decide to give their silent child a voice. More HERE. Bravo! I hate that it takes this kind of tragedy to activate passion – but if the deaths of their children help save another, then maybe the parents can make some sense of the tragedy.

Bully’s goal is not to show how ignorant our parents and schools are about this epidemic. I believe it is to show how poorly we react as a society to peer-aggression. Most people don’t know what to do if their child is the target.

This movie provides a platform for figuring that out.

So, how do we end it? The eleven-year-old friend of Ty Smalley, who took his life, shared  what I believe is the key to stopping the epidemic:

 

Everyone has to know we are equal. 

 

Now, go see it. Take your kids. Start a dialogue with them.

The R rating is bogus. Yes, its intense, but this is what our kids face EVERYDAY. So should we.

 

Bully - Town Hall


Tune in Sunday, March 11 at 9am – FOX11 to Learn More!

Posted on: March 9th, 2012 by
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The editor and host of this blog, Jon Pease, is appearing on Midmorning Sunday with Tony Valdez. They discuss the culture of bullying and some simple ways parents can help their children withstand the assault of peer-aggression. Tune in!


Bystanders Make the Difference!!

Posted on: March 8th, 2012 by
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A student from a high school here in LA was arrested this week for possibly plotting to kill a teacher and two students. Although it’s unclear if this was ideation or a full blown plot – a caring an active bystander stopped a potential tragedy. They told a parent that they overheard something scary – and the parents believed him or her. And then reported it to the police. More HERE.

Bystanders don’t need to wait until things get this serious, either. They can intervene on the part of the target’s anytime. From personal experience, I can tell you as a target – nothing feels better than to have someone stick up for you.

So, if you see something happening – get the target out of the situation. You can ask them to come play with you, or tell a teacher. Either way, you are acting like the hero!

 


Earn It, Learn It!

Posted on: March 6th, 2012 by
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Empathetic people recognize how others feel. These people also tend to have higher self-esteem.

This is really important to parents – as kids who are resilient tend to throw fewer tantrums.

Let me say that again: FEWER TANTRUMS.

Parents also want their kids to understand the value of money – and, dare I say, empathize with how hard it is to make and keep money.

Geared to kids 5-55, the book Earn It, Learn It accomplishes both tasks in fun and easy to implement ways.

The premise of the book is that kids are expected to do family tasks such as dishes or taking out the trash simply because they are necessary to help the family. Teaching that being the part of a collective is more important, at times, than being rewarded for individual acts, helping get your kids out of your hair for money… Do we really need to pay kids for making their beds?

However, we do need to teach the basics of earning – which is where Earn It, Learn it comes in. Weinstein researched literally hundreds of occupations, and boiled them down to kid friendly tasks. When they accomplish the tasks, they are financially rewarded for their work. You set how much they receive.

For example, my kid wants to be an Interior Designer this week. Turn to page 177 – and learn what Interior Designers actually do. The job is then explained in kid friendly detail, and tasks are assigned. Tasks such as, “Start a file folder or envelope of pictures of furniture cut from home furnishing magazines – pieces of furniture that would look great in your room.” (p178) After following four or five more steps, kids get to develop designs – drawing out what the room would look like with their updated ideas. They might even be able to rearrange a room in the house!

Imagine your child coming home to a room they imagined and eventually designed! They would likely feel pride!

This sense of pride is a greet self-esteem booster. Plus, they had to work for their money – creating empathy for you – and hard you work for what you have.

This book is a fun and creative way to spend time with your kids learning the value of hard work and money! We bet you’ll learn a lot, too! Enjoy!

About the Book

400 pages
Sourcebooks (January 1, 2011)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1402242077
ISBN-13: 978-1402242076


Stronger – Megan Landry

Posted on: March 6th, 2012 by
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Wow… Megan wrote this gorgeous song… The words are powerful, and her voice adds a kindness to the lyrics. Check it out!!!